Well good evening!  It’s 11:00pm here in CST and I was very surprised to see I had 3 comments on my first day of blogging.  Thanks to you all!!  I hope, if you continue to read, I don’t bore y’all too much.

I intended to spend this my 3rd entry for today talking about the wonderful meeting of me and my new wife, but first let me say this……This past Monday, July 19, 2004 was our one year anniversary.  We had planned a wonderful time away that night.  I had to be out of town at a food show and had reservations at a very nice hotel in the capitol city of our state.  It was our intent that she would leave work early on Monday, meet me down in Montgomery, and we would go to dinner and then retire to our suite and have an awesome anniversary celebration between the sheets.  Well guess the fuck what?  The Friday before, F.A. (the ex wife) decided to try to kill herself for the second time in three months.  Her hospitalization in the psyche ward left no one to keep my kids so……Susan (my wife) had to stay home and didn’t get to go away on our anniversary get-a-way.  Does this sound like an episode of Jerry Springer?? You have NO idea…..I am sure in the posts to come you might get a better understanding.  Someone in the comments mentioned that my life could be a book or movie…hell I can’t remember…all I can say is he/she is right.  I am sitting on a “Movie of the Week” goldmine.  Or at least a Life Time Movie hit.  Anyway…..can you tell that I am a little bit upset about the whole situation??  Tonight she did all she could to ruin the plans that Susan and I had .  She was supposed to pick up the kids for the weekend by 4pm.  Well, it didn’t happen.  You hear about dead beat Dad’s….how about dead beat Mom’s?

So…..like I said, tonight I had planned to share with you the wonderful story about how Susan and I met on-line, fell in love, and got married.  It really is a very cool and soul inspiring story.  Alas, I just don’t feel like telling it.  Maybe it’s because I am pissed at the ex because of her exploits tonight, or maybe it’s because Susan and I got a little tipsy and had wild sex and she came and I didn’t, or maybe it’s because I haven’t had the chance to really talk to my best buddy Jim about it all yet.  Hell, I don’t know.  I am just a little mad.  I am mad at too many people….namely my ex.  I think the overall theme of this blog will be “me trying to make the best of a new marriage”, and tonight it hasn’t been successful.

I promise to get to the good stuff this weekend.  Have a good night.

Later y’all….

Where to start?  I guess it would be best to give a little marital background information.  I was married to a woman for a little over 11 years.  I will call her F.A.  F.A. and I met in college, dated off and on for two years, then married after I graduated in ‘91.  The first couple of years were pretty good.  In late ‘93 our first child was born, a daughter T.  With the birth of T, FA gained a lot of weight and began a self loathing process that would go on for 9 years.  Not that I had anywhere to complain.  I am 6′5″, and within a few years of marriage I had ballooned up from around 220 to 280.  But anyway….in 2000 we had a son, L.  Right around the time he was born I began a massive weight loss program thanks to Dr. Atkins.  I went from a top weight of 332 down to 235 in about a years time.  During this time FA continued to gain weight, grow more and more miserable and spend most of her time in bed, not working.  She was also completely not interested in sex.  After a while of my persisting she finally told me flat out to go “find myself a girlfriend or something and leave her alone.”  She also informed me not to “bring anything home to her”, incase she wanted to have our quarterly sex session.  Well, I must say that I was interested in the prospect of finding a friend and my wife not caring.  With my newly slimmer body I wasn’t having any trouble turning a few heads on the rare occasion me and my buddies would go out for a beer.  BUT, I never did anything major.  Oh yeah I went to the strip clubs and even a massage parlor once, but I never got into any real action other than a lap dance here and there or a “happy ending” at the oriental massage joint.  Then I discovered the wonderful world of on-line chatting….complete with web cams and all the trimmings.  I made some nice friends and even met a couple, but never went too far with them.  You see, I was, in a way, committed to my family/marriage.  Even though she had given me the greenlight and we both easily described our marriage as a room mate situation.  We were friends, we were just not lovers or in love.  We enjoyed a lot of the same things….watched Friends and ER together every week.  Oh, and most importantly we had the kids in common.  But that was about it.

Late in ‘02 I was promoted in my job and moved back to the south from Oklahoma.  I bought a house, the family moved and I thought maybe things we going to get better with us.  She began working out and losing weight.  She made plans to go back and finish her degree….everything seemed on tract.  She even, for my BD in November had sex with me!!  Whoo Hooo!!!  Then, right around Christmas, I asked her if we could try to work on things, maybe go to counseling, do what ever it took to make our marriage better and also more intimate.  I remember her taking her hands from around her waist, turning from the sink and saying, “I will let you know when or if I am ready to do that.  Meanwhile just keep on doing whatever you want.  Go find yourself a gf and just leave me alone.”

Well folks, if you’re actually out there reading this, I did just that.  Not exactly a gf, but a one night stand.  And guess what?  She busted me….all thanks to Yahoo Messenger and my keeping archives and forgetting to log out one night.  She hired a PI, had me followed, and two weeks later filed for divorce.  Little did I know at the time she was banging the PI the whole time.  Anyway….to make a long story short, the divorce ended very quickly.  I won’t go into the details here now, maybe some other time, but you should know from the day she filed to the day it was finalized was about 45 days.  I ended up getting primary custody of the kids, keeping the house, and pretty much came out unscathed.  I did promise to pay her alimony for 5 years, but that is another story….but during all this terrible time something good did happen.  I met the love of my life, in a Yahoo chat room….and a whirlwind courtship began…..

More later, got to get back to work.

Later, y’all….

Well, hello.  My name is Chuck and I am a 35 yr. old married man living in the deep south.  I have recently discovered the wonderful world of blogging and thought, “what the hell, this seems fun….maybe I will give it a try.”  Not that I imagine that anyone would want to read about me, my life or how I feel about things.  But, maybe it will be therapeutic for me.  I am sure my counselor would agree.

I guess the focus of this will deal with me, my wonderful wife Susan, my kids, work, life, love and sex, hobbies, etc.  I intend to be very honest and forthcoming about all aspects of my life, but not giving up total privacy.  I intend to be a faithful blogger and keep everything as up to date as possible. 

Well for now I suppose I will post this and see if it works.  I’ll get back later today and give a more proper introduction touching on the origin of the title of my blog.

Later….